It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Recap: Episode 7

Now that everyone lives in the same house, what’s going to happen? Fairytales are both delightful and frightening sometimes. As our OTP grows closer, will they be able to overcome their very real fears of desertion and rejection?

Kang Tae is Not Immune

Moon Young’s flirting and manipulations seemed to be rolling right off of Kang Tae, but now we can see that he’s not immune to her charms. Did anyone else’s heart stop as he put her back to sleep? She wakes up all prickly, but Kang Tae seems not to mind her standoffishness. He’s going to skip work and stay home with her! Sang Tae is as shocked as the rest of us when his brother says he’s not going to work. It really looks like the dynamics of all the relationships are undergoing subtle changes.

Mommy Issues and Epic Falls

Moon Young is still fighting her memories of her mother. Her mom wanted her to have long hair, so Moon Young has long hair. She sits at the table with scissors, ready to cut, when she hears her mom begging her to save her. Her hair is symbolic; she can’t cut her hair, and she can’t cut away the memories. And then things get interesting, Agent shows up during her distress, and he’s acting more like a concerned dad. He knows about her sleep paralysis. Is he a total leech, or is he a good guy? I think he actually cares about her. She lashes out at him, and he takes it all pretty calmly, just grabbing her and dragging her down the stairs. I’m not sure that he’s just trying to save his money maker. When she pushes him down the stairs, and Kang Tae saves him, you know it made your heart flutter, come on, admit it, even Agent is in love with Kang Tae now. Well, until he’s shoved outside and the doors are locked behind him.

Everyone Needs a Friend

Sang Tae seems to like working at Jae Su’s place. Their friendship goes back to when they were teenagers. Jae Su met Kang Tae and Sang Tae when he was 16, and Kang Tae worked at his parents’ fried chicken place. He wanted to have a brother like Kang Tae, but Kang Tae already had a brother. Sang Tae answers that he’s the hyung. So Jae Su became good friends with Kang Tae instead because Kang Tae needed a friend. Sang Tae admits, “I need a friend too.” Oh, my heart! Jae Su sells chicken because chicken shops can open and close quickly, and he can go when the brothers move. He’s whining because Kang Tae left him and moved to Moon Young’s. Poor Jae Su!

It’s Totally a Date

Moon Young and Kang Tae went to dinner, and no one is saying it, but it’s totally a date. They eat, and she asks if he’s slept with someone before, so yeah, it’s a date. As they walk after their meal, she’s at it again. Her feet hurt and she wants him to carry her! This girl has no shame and I love it! She wants him to stop suppressing his emotions and she’s pushing all his buttons. She tells him, “Let’s date,” but he turns it on her and reminds her of all the times she told him to “get lost.” The push and pull is real here. He says he isn’t running away from her anymore. Does this mean we are about to get some sweet moments?

Unrequited Love Is Hard

Agent is venting and says he’s going to just give up on Moon Young and find the sweetest woman in the world. Little does he know that the woman in red across the patio is Ju Ri, who meets all those requirements. Y’all remember his response when he first saw her, and he was instantly smitten? Yeah, apparently, she is JUST his type. I thought she was going to end up with Jae Su, but I’m ok with this too. He gives her his business card, and she clocks him! He should have taken Moon Young away, and this is all his fault! She’s kind of cute when she’s drunk. Will she regret this later? Oh yeah!

Testing the Waters

The Director is grilling Kang Tae about whether or not Moon Young has a boyfriend. He’s out for information about how Kang Tae feels about Moon Young. He witnessed them getting out of the same car, so he’s connecting all the dots. Clever guy, he’s claiming to have a son he wants to introduce her to as a dating prospect. They discuss what happened with Moon Young and the older lady the other day. Director tells Kang Tae that Moon Young’s mom is a famous writer who disappeared after writing her last book. Her death was registered five years later, but who knows if she’s really alive or dead. Kang Tae presents the question, what if Moon Young isn’t sad about the loss of her mother, what if she is afraid? This sends the Director to go look through his files on Moon Young’s Dad.

She Loved Too Much

In an interview with Moon Young’s dad, he says that she loved their daughter almost too much. He also said that she sang, “Oh My Darling, Clementine” to her! Anyone else going full tilt with the conspiracy theories? That’s the song they hear at night! I don’t think she’s dead, folks. I’m giving a couple of the females at the hospital who are the right age the side-eye right now. I find it interesting how they are comparing this to the story of the woman who lost her daughter. Her daughter bought the shawl she is always wearing, and she got mad that her daughter spent so much money. When her daughter left, she was hit by a car, and the mom saw it all. Oh, that poor woman! It’s reminding Kang Tae about how his own mother acted.

Jae Su is the Best

Kang Tae goes to Jae Su’s house for comfort. You guys, Jae Su and Kang Tae’s bromance is for the ages. As Kang Tae says he hopes his mother regrets how she treated him, Jae Su starts telling off Kang Tae’s mom. For someone who doesn’t keep relationships, this one is rock solid. I don’t know what happened to Jae Su’s parents, but the Moon brothers are his family and he will go to battle for them. Enter Ju Ri’s Mom with snacks, she tells them that “all mothers are sinners.”

Waiting Up

Drunk Kang Tae heads home to find Moon Young waiting for him on the stairs. She smells the alcohol on him and prepares to do battle if he was with Ju Ri. She wants to drink with him, but he says he has the right amount of tipsiness. He is freaking adorable, all smiles and laughter. He tells her to close her eyes, and she starts making kissy lips in preparation. Only, there is no kiss, just a cute little doll. It’s a doll that takes away your nightmares, and it used to belong to Sang Tae. He made it for his brother, and its name is Mang Tae. Oh my gosh, this is so adorable and meaningful. The writing in this drama continues to pull my heartstrings.

Not me, You

Kang Tae crawls into his brother’s bed for a snuggle, and Sang Tae chides him for being drunk. Kang Tae says, let’s go eat that dish you like tomorrow, but Sang Tae said it wasn’t him that liked the dish. He tells Kang Tae that he was the one who told their mom that he wanted to eat it every day. That’s why they ate it a lot; their mom bought it for Kang Tae. She wouldn’t eat, but she would buy for the boys. Sang Tae just gave him a valuable gift; he reminded him that their mother loved both of her boys. I’m sitting here crying as I write this. Sang Tae’s different talents make it so that he remembers things that Kang Tae doesn’t. When he tells his brother the way things really happened, he’s comforting him beyond measure. Their mother loved both of them so very, very much.

Letting Go

Moon Young just found out her class was canceled, and she’s very unhappy. She’s chasing down the Director, but she runs into the lady who lost her daughter instead. The lady apologizes, and Moon Young tells her that she got fired. Kang Tae is rushing up to prevent anything bad from happening , but Moon Young is on a roll. Moon Young tells the lady that she will take her shawl as compensation. My heart just stopped, oh, that’s a low blow. A very low blow. Except, the lady gives it to her, and it seems like she just helped the lady let go of her burden. She’s been holding onto that shawl as a symbol of guilt for so long, and now she is able to move on.

The Cheerful Dog

The new book is titled, The Cheerful Dog. It’s a story about a dog who is tied under a tree and plays with children during the day, but he’s sad and lonely when it’s dark. He wants to be free, but he’s tied up. One day, a voice asks why he doesn’t cut the leash, and he says he’s been tied up too long. Kang Tae thinks about this new book and the theme, and he tells Moon Young that she helped set that lady free. Moon Young sees her father and tries to walk past him. He tells her she will end up like her mother. There is no escape. She says that she is different and keeps going. Sitting at her dressing table, she picks up the scissors again, and this time she cuts her hair. She cuts her leash.

Oh My Darling

Kang Tae sees the chop job that Moon Young has done to her hair, and he sits her down and fixes it. He really is a man of many talents. This new cut changes her whole look, and I love it. She stares at her reflection and asks how she looks. He tells her she looks pretty, but she is stunning! Stunning! Sparks are sparking everywhere between these two. Back at the hospital, though, Moon Young’s father has escaped from his room, and someone (her mother?) walks down the hallway, singing, “Oh My Darling, Clementine.” We need to remember that the lyrics to this song are about someone who drowned and is “gone and lost forever.” Anyone else remembering Moon Young seeing her mother underwater? 

My Thoughts

This story is incredibly well written, and it such a delightful web of stories. I feel like Moon Young is someone who is incredibly empathetic, but doesn’t know how to express herself. She sees the pain not only in her own life, but in other people’s lives and she calls it what it is. The writer is really doing justice to Sang Tae’s character, he’s not disabled; he is differently-abled. I’m also loving all the honest and candid conversations that are happening about the character’s hopes and fears. The romance ramped it up in this episode, and I’m loving all the sparky sparks between our OTP.

Until the next story,


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2 thoughts on “It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Recap: Episode 7

  1. Yes, the story is well-written, looks beautiful, is nuanced and different, but as someone who has had personal experiences with people in the cluster B personality group–NPD, BPD, ASPD–i know how difficult these disorders are to treat and how difficult it is for these people to genuinely love others–they’re that self-absorbed. I realize the script wanted us to be afraid of the female protagonist in the beginning and to warm to her later–but people with ASPD are notorious charmers. I’ve been creeped out, honestly, as to why people are indeed rooting for this romance after watching Moon Young tear a live butterfly apart, land a man in a hospital with serious injuries, behave in a sexually predatory manner, get into a petty violent fight with an autistic man, shoplift, and tell lie after lie to the man she supposedly loves. The Beauty and the Beast fairytale she analyzed unscored the question–can love heal or is the fairy tale a story of Stockholm Syndrome and grooming? Put me in the latter camp. I can’t see anything but a woman who, all her tragic past aside, is taking advantage of a caregiver because she’s a bottomless pit of need. Sure, maybe with K-drama plotting magic, all her childhood traumas will be cured, bam, because the dad is right there in the psych hospital, the missing mom is just waiting to reappear (K-drama rule–no corpse, expect a reappearance), and the handsome man will catch her when the storm blows her this way and that and exposes her vulnerabilities—oh, she was just putting up a facade all this time. But, I don’t know–the people wounded (hmm, put in hospitals) and businesses destroyed while this woman with ASPD went around doing whatever, no remorse, pocketing pens and toying with other people’s feelings–all that damage will still be there. How will the drama address that? She may end up w/the handsome guy but what about the guy she almost stabbed in the eye and who fell down a flight of stairs? People with ASPD end up in prison a lot; I’m uncomfortable with romanticizing the disorder.

    • I think the primary purpose is to put this topic under the spotlight (they’re doing it also in Fix Your Soul and, in a minor portion, Dinner Mate) so that, hopefully, people will want to know more and educate themselves on the matter.
      It’s highly probable that she’ll be magically cured by the power of love or some other kind of awakening event since the storyline so far isn’t giving me a different vibe so is the viewer that has to discern fiction (this drama) from reality.
      Anyway, after reading your comment, I started watching the drama with another perspective, so thank you for sharing your personal experience as well as another point of view on this particular group of psychological disorders.

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